[Written by Uva LaGrape]
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Wanna know what a grad student in Nerd Studies does on her time off? Research!
This is not at all scientific, but I’ve got tables of the gender/age breakdowns of the online daters in Cville as of January 6, 2008. Do with it what you will. All geographic radii were set to within 25 miles of 22902, except in the case of Yahoo Personals, which just had a near Charlottesville designation that reached all the way to Harrisonburg.
Please keep in mind that there are all kinds of factors that are unaccounted for: how much men vs women use online personals, the ages at which people feel comfortable using online personals, how many of these profiles are dormant, etc. Some of the 18-99 totals might not add up because I got them from the website instead of adding their numbers myself. Some of the gay totals were so small I didn’t break them down. Gay.com had some kind of issues in that it kept giving me the same numbers for men no matter what I put in. One can assume that Gay.com’s high male total means that that’s THE place online to be for gay dudes. Yahoo Personals had such a large number of local profiles that I broke it down into decade and half-decade age ranges in one case equals a woman who in her photo did not look anywhere near the 81 she claimed to be in another case meant a man who I’m 99% sure he clicked the wrong gender. I also looked up Lavalife, but only around 5 people total use that around here.
One conclusion that’s clear is that more men use online dating around here than women. So if you’re a straight girl, go online and you’ll get lots of attention.
And now for a nowhere-near scientific analysis
- Unfortunately the cutest local girl online is GOPcutie. Hot Republicans aren’t supposed to date here. Take that shit to Georgetown.
There were other hotties, but I’m starting to believe the rumor that Charlottesville is not that hot a town. Sure, it’s the number one place to live if you already found someone. But if you’re single, you’ve got to wade through a lot of mustachios and bad photos to get to some golden nuggets. Doesn’t anybody know how to take a close-up, hi-rez photo of themselves smiling? So many frowns! So many fuzzy photos! Charley, 42, of Charlottesville: don’t you know your photo looks like a nightly news closeup of a serial killer? The men especially are bad about this. - The women are not as bad as the men, but come on ladies get some style. The women on Nerve and OKCupid (which skewed the youngest) tended to have the most style. Everyone else tended to look like they just jumped off their horse, turned around and smiled. Put some effort into your photo. Put up a photo if you haven’t. Lotsa people don’t. If you want attention, put up a photo. This place is too dang casual. Nobody dresses up for anything. I don’t mean evening gowns. I mean big earrings and fuckme pumps. Dudes, where are your shiny shirts and long shoes? And for the love of god women stop wearing those blouses that make you look pregnant with the ampere waistband. For an example of a perfect profile photo, keyword search on Yahoo. Mmc put on her work clothes, got her hir did, shined up her teeth and put some goddamn effort into her photo and you can bet she’s getting a lot of responses.
- Despite all that, I have to give a God-DAYUM to the following profiles: grrlydammit, roboagogo and lolita3476. Wow! And a “Good Lord, girlâ to Suggapye.
- Honorable mentions to BonMourant, Kbug, shelbygurl, Anukate, Gerry, nitrateguy, Kenacorn, Biglove900 and GazornPlotz (crank dat Popeye, cuz!)
- Might as well give a Step ya game up, son!†to Charley the serial killer, Thomas (smile!), Terence (get the pencil out ya ear!), Woody (focus!), Ryan (stop looking scary!), RedbonePrincess (stop frontin’), and loner86 (stop online dating until you see a psychiatrist).
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Charlottesville dating sites researched: OK Cupid, Gay.com, Nerve.com, Match.com, PlentyofFish.com, Yahoo.com.
Popularity: 10% [?]
Tagged as: Activities, Albemarle County, Charlottesville, Men, Questions, Rants, Reviews, Science, Singles Scene
wow! LaGrape is stalking Charlottesville!!
Oy… don’t mess with her. Please. She’s scary. I read her profile and went and double locked the windows. Seriously.
Your irony is dripping, Floozy.
2 years ago I wrote a diliberately tweaked out (yet true, just not the positives, ya know?) personal on craigslist. I think the headline was “Im the worst mistake you’ll ever make in your life”. Actually got some responses, but it was a fun experience seeing who would respond.
Actually I may be able to dig it out of the CL archives like the bear story…
/will someone get a bar towel for flozzy’s irony?
LaGrape,
How did you decide who qualified as a single man/woman vs. a “hot” single man/woman?
Just curious
The nowhere-near-scientific analysis– can we get some more of that? How do you think each site markets itself to get the age group it does? How much crossover do you see, as in, people who are using multiple groups? The age and gender distributions are where I would have guessed, except that I had no idea about the sheer volume on Yahoo personals and hadn’t heard of the others. Thanks dude.
I LOVE THE BEAR STORY. Re-read last night.
B’yo… typos and syntax errors? Were you drinking last night perchance?
(Do not answer Does mouse shit roll)
@Silmo.. I think Het means heterosexual, not hot.
LOLOLOL#8 Sil you need bifocals… all that masturbation has caught up with you.
Floozy I weigh nearly 850 lbs and am bed ridden. Left my key mashing stick in the other room and need to wait for my resident home aide to come fetch it for me. Besides, I pay my syntax upfront, knowaimean?
Lilith Wanna re-read my golden oldy personal ad. Its well written and long, but rather embarassing (cause its old, Ive changed damnit!), but I have no shame if you all have any interest.
How’d you find my website???
silm, for what it’s worth I thought it said Hot too. Don’t forget to bring our bifocals for sat nite.
Oooo. Silmo and caroline are sharing bifocals! Sex-ay!
Re lilith’s marketing query:
Nerve.com definitely markets itself to the younger half with its hipster iconography and “suicide girls” and “porn is cool” themes. I believe Nerve’s personals are part of an aggregate of corporately-connected websites that include The Onion.
OKCupid is not that well-designed, but it has a teen-girl look that explains why it is so heavily under-30.
Yahoo and POF is for everybody, so every kinda person is represented. Except for older flirters. But seniors aren’t represented much on any of the sites.
Match has the most female customers, and this is probably cuz they have the mass media marketing kicking with the TV and magazine ads and Dr. Phil promoting it on his show. Also, it seemed to be the most “full” of all the personals sites (most features). It seemed like the site to go to if you want to take online dating seriously.
I didn’t look at eharmony because you have to register to get in. Any eharmony users wanna tell what it’s like inside? I’ve heard that this site’s expensive but worth it.
I evaluated eharmony for AOL when I worked there - as soon as I finished my profile I was swarmed with women. I felt like chum in a shark tank. (note, this was in DC, not CVille)
Weird vibe, for me at least, but it makes sense as their marketing campaigns can be summed up in three words - “Find A Husband”. I had women contacting me even though I never put a picture up (I guess they buy into that whole “personality matching based on 29 questions” crap). Several of those women worked at AOL (unfortunately, none of my at-the-time crushes were among them)
Wow, that’s a big post. Maybe I am stalking Charlottesville.
Re: crossover. Yes I saw a LOT of the same faces site to site. I also wonder how many of these personals are dormant.
Silmo, if by “hot” you’re referring to my comment that maybe our town isn’t so “hot” in the looks department…then I guess what I mean is that we don’t dress up like they do in LA or Seattle. We go everywhere one half a clothing/makeup/hair level above whatever we’re wearing at home. It’s the whole concept of “A Charlottesville 9 is an LA 6″. I don’t think it’s anything inherent. It’s just not part of central Virginia culture to put on a tux or evening gown except for once a year, if that. And there better be a charity involved if we hafta wear it.
Floozy: don’t be skerred.
So what happened then, oy? Tell us about the dates!
also e-harmony is rumored to be religion heavy…rumored b/c i’ve known two people who wrote atheist etc. in a few belief/activity oriented field and were told “no match for you” soup nazi style
Yes. eharmony is up to its armpits in Jeebus.
Its the domino’s pizza/chik-fil-a of dating sites.
yeah what’s up with those nasty commercials for eharmony where they’re like “REJECTED!” to the gay dude. WTF?
What truestory said. They also only match straights. Their claim is that they “don’t know how to match gays,” but from everything I’ve heard it all goes back to the religious bent of the site owners.
The one friend I had who went through the entire process and joined eHarmony locally ended up matched to a few guys in-state, but mainly ones as far away as Montana. Admittedly, that was years ago. And she really did like the guy in Montana (but please see: dude was in freakin’ Montana, not exactly nextdoor).
I’m pretty sure my cousion used eHarmony and that’s how she met her husband (NY area). Of course not everyone knew that until her sister’s maid of honor speech which started “Some people go online to find shoes, my sister found a husband.” Ouch.
sorry, no dates, I just did a design evaluation of the site itself, wasn’t there for any potential nookie.
No shame in finding a husband online as long as he doesn’t run on batteries.
The way eharmony works is everyone fills out a “personality profile” and then the site does all the matching and contacting. It’s my understanding that you cannot actually search out or contact people unless eharmony sends them to you in your batch of matches.
The ad with the “REJECTED” stamp is for chemistry.com, with is match.com’s version of the eHarmony concept, with the personality profile and all, except they welcome gay folks and don’t get all crazy christian about stuff.
I’ve never done the online dating thing (have come close, but inevitably end up meeting someone before I ever actually get to the profile posting stage), though I did window shop when I was considering moving to CVille.
I liked what I saw, FWIW.
Lys: No “ouch” needed, I think online dating doesn’t have nearly the stigma it used to. It shouldn’t, anyway, for a generation of people accustomed to living our entire lives online.
Yikes, typos. Sorry.
Not an “ouch” from my perspective, but not exactly the joke you crack in front of great grandma and all your coworkers either (in the same way I wouldn’t want someone to say “they fell for each other the night they first met, but I really credit the alcohol for the falling part”).
eharmony’s definitely got the God, my mom married a minister she met on there. whee!
what screws with me is when I walk past someone on the mall who I recognize from a dating site. bad enough between myspace and facebook… alas I have no anonymity.
eHarmony is definitely a big algorithm, not selling itself people looking to hook up. If it works for you… do it.
I had a short-lived stint in online dating, and I did date one guy from Friendster– we actually lasted a couple of months before his hot ex-girlfriend, something of a star on Myspace video, made a comeback. I had *nothing* on her porniness. The trick is, people, meet the person and their friends as soon as you can to make sure they look like their “recent” picture, they can answer fast questions in succession about their claims to intelligence and culture and wealth, and they are capable of socializing in public. Otherwise, you waste time writing note after note.
I do wonder if there’s a self-fulfilling prophecy thing going on. People who want to find relationships are on the sites. I wonder if they let go of expectations / standards in order to be open to new people. I think that is a good thing under ANY circumstances. Unless it’s like, “Well, but he won’t beat ME when he’s angry even though he has six restraining orders…”
NOT everyone on the sites want relationships. Cue up the porn music.
Speaking of religion on these dating sites, what about JDate?
* i still challenge a reader boy/girl to let us do a profile on them and set them up on a date through our site.
Let “you” do a profile? How would you know what to write?
Do it then. Worse case scenario…date from hell or someone loses an eye. Then it’s no longer fun and games, per the age old saying.
Are you paying for the date? I’m game.
Ahh ya, Thor, what yo said. I think we need more deets before signing up for the humiliation.
True true true story about Eharmony….
A single friend of mine lived here and against my advice bought a house in the asshole of nowhere miles from town and got lonely. After about 2 years of no dates and 12 worn out vibrators she signed up with Eharmony (okay the vibe detail was for dramatic effect). Anyhow she filled out the online application, and received back THE most cutting response, telling her she was found to be compatible with less than 6% of the men in her immediate area, and had some skewed personality issues which gave her a low probability of dating success. She was devastated, hooked back up with her ex from college (utter prick) and married the bastard. I wonder if she put something facetious down for the religion bit and they dumped her….hmmmmm.
Let me think about this one.
Would we pay for the date? No. But maybe we can get a restaurant sponsor.
Do any restaurants reading this want to cover the date (think: CHEAP MARKETING!)? email us!
Oh and UVa LaGrape… yep it’s me. I am that friend as well. Just thought I’d save you a post.
Lys: “Some people go to the supermarket/bookstore/ to buy cat litter/Jane Austen novels, my sister found a husband.” Would that get an “ouch”? I just don’t see why anyone in this day and age should be embarrassed to admit they met their spouse online.
Or maybe I’m just being sensitive because my current beau found me on MySpace (though we did know each other in “real life” several years ago) and I think it’s hilarious. If we ever got married I’d probably make a MySpace page for the wedding invitations.
*hugs Floozy*
Poor baby.
You know, me and my girlfriends have this softball team…
Ooooh, let me join the shame game. I once drunkenly tried the eHarmony survey and got rejected. I’m not marriage material it would seem. Snort.
But seriously. Myspace is the best “I’m not into online dating but hey, what’s up…” site. Thanks myspace for all the wonderful/interesting blokes/free ass you’ve sent my way. And thanks for letting me know that my ex was cheating on me with a 20 year old.
Match.com/cville is full of rednecks. Shudder.
and thanks to Myspace for the jello wrestling pics…
I am loving afternoon story time. Hey everyone, sign up for eHarmony and let us know about it
i went on a date with myspace; turns out she was married, and completely disconnected from reality. she was also in a cult.
it was magical.
A few years ago, my roommate’s girlfriend found his profile on match.com. They got in the longest stupidest argument about why he was on there and why she was browsing the site. I thought they were perfect for each other. But, believe it or not, they ended up cheating on one another and 1 year later they were both engaged to different people. It really works!
I saw the profile of a girl friend’s guy-she-was-seeing-exclusively-but-they-weren’t-official-yet back in the day. I didn’t have it in me to tell her. Is that bad? Should I have?
Can we have a post about local cults??? Please!!!
Parlie: we already had this “Myspace got me lots of ass vs. Myspace introduced me to a lot of crazies” convo…
to make you feel better, I’ll feel you in on the one crazy I met…
Big muscular army guy started talking about how he has an avatar on some dorky virtual role-playing game and it’s a leprechaun/hobbit somethingorother and he kept talking to me in a high-pitched voice that was supposed to be this character and I said, “You’re going to kill me while I’m sleeping, aren’t you?”
There’s a huge cult in Schuyler that makes you change your name to whatever they tell you and takes all your paycheck.
Shen…. I swear I just nearly pissed my chair.
i must have missed that one.
i’m glad the muscular army hobbit didn’t kill you, though.
Silmo re: 47, YES, where are they? No one responds to my IY jokes. It must not be a cult, because they’d come after me for my relentless abuse if it was.
Oh my God, what if I’m being rejected by a cult? Oh, now I am more insecure than ever.
Let’s be a cult. We’ll build a cult fort and have cult wars. We get to use the big couch and the Super Soaker.
“You’re going to kill me while I’m sleeping, aren’t you?â€
Were you planning on falling asleep at the bar or were you planning on … with a crazy hobit avatarist???
Someone told me that there were three cults in the area (you know who you are _-_. Spill the beans)
I do know that 10 or so years ago there was a small cult comprised of downtowners. The cult leader tended bar at Easter Standard. His life ended tragically at his own hands, but his accolites and their progeny are still around
wait, we aren’t a cult already? (interest in site suddenly waining)
Silmo:
No way, dude. I had a sudden prescient glimpse into the future, let’s say.
I do know that 10 or so years ago there was a small cult comprised of downtowners…
You really want to stay away from that story. Trust Me.
My Favorite cult out this way is “Sychronicity” Good God the glassy eyes of the calm folk walking about out there… The guy calls himself “Master Charles and has pictures of himself everywhere. They are out in Nelson, and have been in the news for the apperition of the virgin mary and yadda yadda. I have been to one of his “dialogues” (pre-mary) for new possible members. Thank god I know a few things…. I could write a whole post about that one trip. Lordy.
oops. dropped a tag.
Master Charles used to dine at OXO. Was a very nice customer. Almost peed myself when his pic showed up in the Hook? C-ville? as a cult leader…
Dang. Sounds like they’re dangerous Yo
Hey hey! I wanna hear about the downtown cult.
Shenan… He’s tipping with other people’s duckets is why. And trust me, its a cult. C-U-L-T. Maybe not People’s Temple, but cult none the less. I have been there. I have seen it in action with my own eyes. They mean well, and I think they are mostly harmless (just like serial killers are always the “quiet neighbor who kept to himself mostly” - i keed). But believe it. And if you dont I’ll tell you about the ‘techno corporate hypno wheel’…
And silmo… I have had tangiential crossings with quite a few of whom you speak. Im like a magnet to them. Not so much dangererous (well, psychologically maybe) just very very weird (to me).
(notice all my qualifications to cya)
I also know that a certain wife of a certain pastor here in town who was caught with his proverbial pants down was an ex cult member… glassy eyed- calm-bovine cud chewing type of demeanor. Yep. That was she. I so wanted to slap her around a bit.
haha i love how online dating turned into cults.. do you guys want another post to talk about cults?
HOLY CRAP….. read this article and look closely at the pic at the end. I swear I can see a clear white figure of The Virgin Mary there just beyond the pavilion…. would never have believed it had I not seen it with my own glassy eyes. Silmo… get your bifocals on.
http://www.readthehook.com/stories/2006/09/28/NEWS-blessedMotherCharles-D.doc.aspx
I DO SEE IT, FLOOZE! I DO!
Can we road trip it to Synchronicity … like now
Master Charles is hot
http://www.synchronicity.org/
Let’s all go moon the Hook webcam at 9pm.
OOOOOOOOOH there’s a bloody message board. Floozy feels like being very naughty….
LOLOLOL… Shen…give Hawes a coronary
Will I get arrested?
I used to meditate at synchronicity back in ‘87 when Ally Sheedy was a member, (I joined only cause I was in love with Ally). Back then he was called Brother Charles, I also heard he was the original Ernie on ‘My Three Sons’.
About the Charlottesville cult, very sad story, that man was a really nice man and excellent musician. I don’t think that was a cult, or maybe he just didn’t want me to join.
Charlie-boy looks more like Ernie from Sesame Street to me… do you think the apparition was Jim Henson’s ghost?
He must have been a *really* nice man, Caroline, and anyone I have ever heard speak of him spoke in terms of love. And yes a very sad story… but you have to admit there was a twist there somewhere. I never could put my finger on it, maybe thats why I felt ill at ease. Anyway. You would know better than I.
And I bet Synchro was groovy back in the day, but have you been lately? ‘Brother’ Charles promoted himself to ‘Master’ Charles. Maybe Im just a jaded child of bay area hippies and beats, who has seen EVERY kind of whacked out philosophy and mode of spiritual transport that I have been stained for life.
Or maybe I should just promote myself to Belmont Yo’ Mama.
What about Craigslist?
Here’s something I noticed. January 5 I was in NYC. Killing time, I looked up “women seeking men” on CL for Charlottesville, and there were THREE new posts for that day. Then I looked it up for Manhattan, and there were over SIX HUNDRED! Of course, NY is five hundred times bigger than the Ville, so no surprise.
LaGrape, I guess it would have been nearly impossible to do the numerical research on CL that you did on the official dating sites, but I wonder generally: how many people use CL compared to dating sites, and what is the ratio of success/failure.
I browse CL frequently, as opposed to other personals sites (I’m also on Nerve), and find it more interesting because the people change. On these dating sites, most of the profiles are ancient - not necessarily inactive - CL at least gives the illusion of new people coming in all the time.
Anybody wanna go out for a drink?
cheers,
RC
b’yo, yes I was out in Nelson at “master charles’” spread recently, I still have friends who live there. Master has a very large house there now, while the rest of the people live in trailers…..sad.
The Charlottesville cult story happened before you moved here, but yes, there may have been some things none of us could put our finger on. It got weirder toward the end.
I hope Two0Four knows that you have problem putting your finger on it… she may even cancel Puerto Rico.
Oh, and those 600 NYC CL hits returned after I narrowed the age range 30-50. I don’t even think there was anyone in that age range posting in Cville Jan. 5.
(going back now to investigate, I see ZERO posts on Jan 5. Must’ve all been flagged as spam. See? There you have it. What was I saying again about CL? I’m confused now.)
bye now.
CL
I meant to sign RC, jeez.
I’m not drunk!
I said some things, not ALL things….
and floozy you know better baby!
Ally Sheedy is hot
Yeah, I know it all ‘went down’ right before I moved here, but I dated two of H’s ‘girlfriends’ since (way back when), so the stories, as you may imagine, were told. It was all kinda recent too back then (been here ten yrs.), but that was then. Plus while the stories were fresh, they were second hand. Just wish I coulda met the guy myself to get my own vibe/read. Guess its best just to let it lay at this point. Yes.
Master charles pats his sychronites on their head like puppies! How enlightened!
especially in High Art! I heard floozy looks like Ally Sheedy. Is Grape getting all meoooww hissss with flooze? How the plans coming for Saturday?
Holy Shit B’yo, I can’t believe it’s been 10 years! I remember when we first met, I guess that was a long time ago….
Ally Sheedy..naaaah I’m more Hulk Hogan on crack with smaller tits.
Don’t worry about me and Grapey… I’ve got Shen on my side and I think we can take her down together. Who knows… we might not bother to get back up again.
oh floozy, don’t make me jealous…have you taken up with nanigans?
No… my heart lies with Taliesen… I must seek her bitter black heart out and cure her vitriol with love and kindness.
so then you’re cool if it’s me and you and me and two? are you coming out on saturday?
Not sure… have to check with Byo to see if his neighbors can make it.
LMAOAMOJ
Sorry, I don’t swing that way. I did go to Randy-Mac but I’m strictly dickly. And by that I mean I only want men who are complete dicks.
In other words, you’re just like every other woman on the planet…
hahahah
oy, that was awesome
“yeah aweshhome, oy!” *teenage nerd Thor said while pushing up his glasses
I missed this entire thread. Sonofabitch.
I just listened to the FREE sample of their contemporary high-tech meditation CD, and I quote, Synchronicity is a:
In the Hook:
Mother, say I: Monk sees vision in Nelson
Yogi flare: Blessed mother raises guru’s profile
A piece in MovingOn.org about recovering from cults
Retro Cycler, you seem awesome, welcome, I hope you got drinks last night. I’m sorry the group didn’t come off as being more inviting (dirty lilith-looks all around), but come out to Crush on the 24 and we’ll show you a good time.
Why is everyone calling me a nerd all of a sudden!?
(Tell them you dance on elevated surfaces, and they’ll lay off.)
Retro cycler is an awesome guy, have chatted with him several times. I can vouch.
I dance on elevated surfaces, awesome!
Because everyone just figured out, all of a sudden, that you’re a nerd?
Can we talk about cults again?
Yes please
OK, lets differentiate between cults and communes.
Synchronicity = cult
Twin oaks/shannon farm = commune
Discuss.
I think we need a separate ‘cult’ thread. I’ve got a distant cousin who now lives in Orange who I’ve heard has organized a cult of sorts, they’ve all built houses in the same neighborhood, and he’s the religious leader. He once tried to throw a tool-box through my windshield ’cause I wouldn’t perjure myself in his divorce… guess they don’t know him as a narcissistic-sociopath with impulse-control issues.. ooops, maybe they do now?
There’s another cult in town that revolves around a couple of businesses/families. I know the Cotten family is big into it (Virginia Plumbing/ Masters Auto Body/ one of the local glass shops, etc..) and I’ve had it confirmed by one of their former employees who managed to get out. They control your life and if you rebel, they’ll turn your own children against you and make your business fail. Nice folks.
p.s. Thanks LaGrape for not highlighting my profile on one of the dating sites mentioned (or should I be offended?)
/going there to hide it right now/
we’re working on the separate thread.. hold your horses.
I had a friend who got sucked into a Christian cult (yeah; didn’t know THOSE existed) while he was in college. Had to be deprogrammed and everything. Smart guy, too. Has a doctorate in nuclear physics. Bizarre situation.
I like the cult of dancing on tables to BYo’s jammin’ tunester-age!
who is this hipsTER doofus? I only know of hips. Join my cult. Now. Join my cult now…..you’re getting sleepy, very sleepy…..
My horses grow ancy God of Thunder.
[…] all started yesterday at 3:51pm. Parlie wrote about dating a girl from Myspace who was married and in a cult, and 24 hours later, we can’t get enough of the cult talk. You guys asked for a cult post. […]
Ease up he’s busy posting my post: Who makes the best garlic press?
(sadly, i fear that would actually make for a popular post)
Silmo, just about everyone swears by the Zyliss garlic presses, but I loves me my Oxo one. Yeah, I read reviews for garlic presses. But not melon ballers. They scare me.
Actually, I think I just scared myself. Silmo was undoubtedly making a joke and I answered via some sort of Pavlovian response to a cooking question. My name is ThatGrrl. I am a cook-a-holic.
Hips:
These are the same Cottens that are also into breeding Yorkies, I do believe. Who’da thunk it, brainwashing and tiny dogs.
*wonders why floozy didn’t call back after taking me down.*
Thanks, LaGrape. I wanted to see what earned profiles like lolita3476’s a God-DAYUM, so I took a peek, and now I’ve been *wink*’d at by a chick who’s looking for bi and lesbian girls (I am neither fyi). Shall I pass her your way, honey?