UVa Class of 2008 student Will Barrow passed away this weekend. No details on the cause of death are available, I just hope there wasn’t any foul play…he was so young! Our thoughts and prayers are with his family and friends. You can read more about this at the:
I hope we can all have a have a Happy Thanksgiving in spite of this loss in our community.[pic from facebook]
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nothing. they sit around forever. i just defriended a dead friend on myspace after a couple of years because it was too weird.
GMail and AOL release e-mail to the estate, after written proof of death. Specifics are here: http://www.seroundtable.com/archives/013645.html .
Yahoo requires a court order. See: http://news.cnet.com/Yahoo-releases-e-mail-of-deceased-Marine/2100-1038_3-5680025.html .
I dunno about Facebook.
Maybe this is a reminder to all of us to leave instructions for what we want to have happen to our stuff after we’re gone, even if we think we’re immortal. We’re not, and it creates a hardship for those we love if we don’t spell this sort of thing out.
We may also have data online that we don’t want ANYBODY to have access to after we’re gone. Provisions should be made for the obliteration of such data.
This is something to think about.
So sad. My wife was at the Albemarle Square ACAC on Sunday when a man fell over and died, right in the middle of the gym. Love to both of their friends and families.
How about this for an amazing way to remember a loved one… pets included. I think this is one of the most fantastic ideas I have heard since I gave up the drink.
@1, that’s why mydeathspace.com was so popular. And creepy.
It was a suicide, that’s why so many sources wrote around the specifics.
I knew Will, and think this is tragic. I also think it’s highly inappropriate to ask in this same post, out of “curiosity,” what happens to a facebook page when someone dies. This should be dedicated to remembering Will and offering condolences.
Suicide is the worst thing to do to your family. My heart goes out to them this holiday.
if anyone didn’t realize how amazing of a player Will is, here is a video.
Rest in Peace, Will.
@7: I think you’re thinking about a rememberance book at a funeral home/candlelight vigil. This is a blog. People talk about what interests them.
Sad though. I wish his family and friends my deepest condolences around these upcoming holidays. Tough time of year.
This is not an appropriate forum to discuss Will and this sad time. I know it is only meant with good intentions, but would you mind taking this post down?
I don’t think any of us close to him would like a public discussion about the tragic circumstances of Will’s death.
i don’t generally care about anyone or anything, but i agree with 11. this isn’t news or gossip. it’s a real person.
I would really like this taken down. He really wasn’t a famous person and this seems somewhat goulish.
I know no one intended harm but this feels wrong
What’s the difference between this and a newspaper article that you can comment on online? Is this smearing his name? From the YouTube video I learned how kickass he was, and would not have known otherwise.
So news and gossip doesn’t include real people. That’s great. Fucking hypocrites. Yes it does. They are real people solely because they live and die in our town? Aren’t under the purview of a national spotlight? Cartoons? So we can nod and say…that’s tragic and look up their Facebook accounts in private and say all the right things in public and “pray for them” when we don’t actually give a flying fuck until it affects us. . Condolences and that’s so sads and when are we going to meet for drinks….how come this kid killed himself? Put a mirror to that. Or shadows. Don’t TALK about it… Have some decorum. Yada.. We don’t talk about death ever in this culture. Fucking Taboo. Orthodox Pilgrims and we’ve barely escaped that creaky boat from hundreds of years ago.
And this absolutely needs to be discussed. But what are the drink specials at XYZ that just opened? How bout those oysters? And how pithy can I be and can I win? No. Not 2500 bucks. Not a dollar.
I think that one of the problems is when threads like this (focused on a particular person) stray past just condolences and memorializing. This is a recent, unexpected death, by all accounts, and if it is a suicide — having been very personally affected by such a death — I know that there are many questions, many conflicting emotions from those left behind. I just think that a site that is supposed to represent and celebrate Cville, in some regard, would be a place that mourners might turn to in order to find some support — maybe in the form of kind words or memories — when they have questions unanswered. I don’t think it’s creepy to offer up a thread for people to pay their respects, but I do think it’s kind of crass to stray into the “what about his facebook page” and “how ’bout that MyDeathSpace” stuff, especially so soon after this happened. Internet autopsy is in poor taste, imo.
You’re right, Taliesin, we don’t talk about death enough, generally, and we certainly should — but perhaps that should be its own thread, and much more. ‘Thoughts and prayers’ on threads like this might seem meaningless, but sometimes it’s all people know how to do when there just aren’t good words. And maybe it’s enough, or at least a little solace to friends and family who go on the internet looking for god knows what — perhaps just a little reassurance that their loved one isn’t forgotten.
I hope Will’s family and friends find each other this holiday and do what they can to help each other through. I think most of us can relate to great loss, and can at least try to empathize.
I agree with 15.
who are being hypocritical? i do not think it means what you think it means.
Basically– don’t say anything on this thread that you wouldn’t say in public. We’ve lost a member of our community and people who know this person are going to see this, so be tactful. We’ve got plenty of other threads to be irreverent on.
@19 are you answering my question? cause i don’t see any hypocrisy anywhere. what would be hypocritical would be for someone to talk about how bad suicide is & then go kill themselves. you’re talking about inappropriateness and insensitivity.
What about irony?
@20: no, that was @ post.